What an amazing episode of the arrow!! Loved it! I love the way they’re slowly writing Diggle and Felicity’s characters. Oliver was very raw and believable as well. Amazing!!

OK… A teensy heart-broken by tonight’s Arrow episode. I ship olicity as well but I’m so glad there are strong female characters who are also a little dark (Moira) and smart (Felicity!!!!).

Also can we talk about the epic scene between Moira and Felicity… It was fantastic. I also love that Felicity made the choice that she did. Oliver needs her more than she needs him (All it takes to get over heartbreak is a little time but who knows how difficult, possibly impossible to find a tech genius who is also super loyal and knows to keep her mouth shut!)

All in all, great episode….

I always get asked, ‘Where do you get your confidence?’ I think people are well meaning, but it’s pretty insulting. Because what it means to me is, ‘You, Mindy Kaling, have all the trappings of a very marginalized person. You’re not skinny, you’re not white, you’re a woman. Why on earth would you feel like you’re worth anything?’
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pandamans:

thefrogman:

By Marlo Meekins [tumblr | twitter]

fuck yeah pandas.

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thefrisky:

“We let Willow cut her hair. When you have a little girl, it’s like how can you teach her that you’re in control of her body? If I teach her that I’m in charge of whether or not she can touch her hair, she’s going to replace me with some other man when she goes out in the world. She can’t cut my hair but that’s her hair. She has got to have command of her body. So when she goes out into the world, she’s going out with a command that it is hers. She is used to making those decisions herself. We try to keep giving them those decisions until they can hold the full weight of their lives.” (via Why Will And Jada Pinkett Smith Let Daughter Willow Cut Her Hair - The Frisky)

thefrisky:

“We let Willow cut her hair. When you have a little girl, it’s like how can you teach her that you’re in control of her body? If I teach her that I’m in charge of whether or not she can touch her hair, she’s going to replace me with some other man when she goes out in the world. She can’t cut my hair but that’s her hair. She has got to have command of her body. So when she goes out into the world, she’s going out with a command that it is hers. She is used to making those decisions herself. We try to keep giving them those decisions until they can hold the full weight of their lives.” (via Why Will And Jada Pinkett Smith Let Daughter Willow Cut Her Hair - The Frisky)

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darklovelyandsouthasian:

by Nandita Das

nandita.theweek@gmail.com

From the time I came into the public domain and have been written about, 9 out of 10 articles start by describing me as being dusky or earthy. A reference to the colour of my skin doesn’t escape the best of journalists.

The prerequisite for being an actress is to be fair. So I guess it is essential to qualify anything that is an aberration. Or, is it simply a manifestation of an inescapable conditioning?  I can say from my own experiences that the colour of my skin definitely featured in most introductions and comments about me, right from my childhood. From people saying, “poor thing she is so dark” to “you have nice features despite being dark”. Had it not been for my parents, for whom this was not a topic of conversation, I would have grown up believing I was just not good enough. Thanks to them, I defined myself through nurturing many different interests. How I looked was unimportant. It was only in later years I realised how fortunate I was.  

I have often wondered why are we supposed to feel proud or ashamed of attributes that we are born into. I have done nothing to be born as a woman, a Hindu, an Indian or dark. But then there are choices I have made through the years that have been mine and if I must be judged, let those be the ones. But this is easier said than done. I am shocked to see the rise in the number of fairness creams, dark actresses looking paler and paler with every film and magazines, hoardings, films and advertisements showing only fair women. You could ask what is there to be shocked, as all this has always existed. But with more women in the work force, voicing their desires and concerns, more debate about gender equality and sensitivity, one would imagine that racism of this sort would be on the decline.

Of course, now the insecurities of men are also surfacing with equal number of fairness products for them. Such pressures and so little public debate around it!  Am I over-reacting here? Whenever I interact with college students, especially young girls, I invariably get a question to the effect, “How come you are so confident despite being dark?” It took me some time to understand its ramifications in its entirety, but when I went deeper I realised how inadequate so many young girls felt purely because they couldn’t live up to the societal standards of beauty. Every film and women’s magazine told them how ugly they were. It made their personalities shy, hesitant, insecure, not good enough. I grappled with how to make them understand the worthlessness of this pursuit as I took my confidence for granted.

Gradually I found myself championing the cause of colour! When a sales-girl tries to sell me a fairness cream or a salon woman insists on bleaching my skin, I find myself giving them a lecture against it. Perhaps, some of it is unwarranted as they, too, are victims of that same system.  Strangely, how educated or affluent you are has no bearing on this prejudice.

Desire for a fair child makes some parents believe that drinking milk first thing in the morning will ensure a fair child. A friend of mine suffered his entire childhood as his brother was fair and he was asked how come he turned out to be so dark. There is no dearth of such stories that we all would have heard, experienced or perpetuated in some way or the other. What with fairytales like sleeping beauty talking about “who is the fairest of them all” and Snow White and Barbie dolls becoming role models for little girls. Right from our childhood the message is clear, and in later years it is only reinforced in many ways. Film songs call a girl gori (fair) or “pardon the dark because it has a good heart”  in a song like kale hain to kya hua dilwale hain. Look anywhere and everywhere, there are blatant and subtle reinforcements that only fair is lovely.


Nandita Das is an award-winning Indian film actress and director. She is well-known for starring in the 1996 film “Fire.” Submitted by Minal Hajratwala (http://www.minalhajratwala.com) Click on Nandita’s picture to go to the original article. The second photo was submitted by Ami. 

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Little things to be proud of

A few things to know about me before reading the post

  • I truly believe that capitalism is the only economic model that works
  • I’m not given to jingoistic patriotism
  • I am often critical of the Indian government and Indian society specifically for the way we treat women in our society

Now for the actual post….

I’m currently reading Fred Pearce’s The land Grabbers. It’s a book about land grabbing by millionaires and billionaires in some of the world’s poorest and most desperate regions. As I read it, I realized how much leadership and forward thinking Indian governments have been over the past 60 years. Like some of the African nations today, until the 1990s, India was poor, desperate and until the 70s, unable to feed its own ever-growing population. However, the Indian government did not resort to the desperate tactic of leasing its land to cash-rich foreign conglomerates or resort to industrial farming. By empowering the country’s own farmers, we have achieved only not only self sufficiency but also avoided some of the terrible consequences facing many of the African nations today.  By keeping foreign investment completely out of certain areas in agriculture, we may have missed out on a few dollars but we have definitely managed to keep our granaries and warehouses full, maybe even a little too full. We have also avoided some complex political and social problem along the way.

As Indians, we have a lot to be ashamed of, a lot to change and a lot to think about but we can be proud of some decisions made by our politicians and government over the years.